tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2227740750575250405.post649652490568428070..comments2022-11-19T02:44:56.644-08:00Comments on Life in the Land of Burps and Farts: It's really more an issue of "Does The Radiology Dept. Have Enough Tissues On Hand For The Tears My Mother Will Shed?"Anniehttp://www.blogger.com/profile/08132737557854212284noreply@blogger.comBlogger5125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2227740750575250405.post-3027787863281486772009-06-23T18:11:19.540-07:002009-06-23T18:11:19.540-07:00May I venture a comment from the other side of the...May I venture a comment from the other side of the question?<br /><br />I vividly remember the ultrasounds from my two children. I was alone for the first, and my husband was with me for the second; my mother was geographically too far away to even consider asking her. But they were both very special moments.<br /><br />When my daughter had her ultrasound for her first pregnancy, she was allowed two support people, and she chose her husband and me. Policy here now is that they will NOT even hint at the gender under any circumstances, and she didn't want to know anyway. But I was very touched and thrilled that she wanted me there, and it was still very special to see the baby who turned out to be my grandson while he was still in utero.<br /><br />She had the ultrasound for her second pregnancy only two weeks ago. Hospital policy had changed to allow only one support person. Her husband deferred to me and so I again had that wonderful moment of seeing the new grandbaby.<br /><br />(It so happened that they couldn't get one particular reading they needed, so she will have to have a second ultrasound later on, and she will take her husband to that one. And I agree, he has priority over me on this.)<br /><br />But there is something very special about seeing the new baby in real time there on the monitor screen that no amount of videotaping can duplicate.<br /><br />If the policy at your hospital is to let other people come in at the end for a look, it would be a wonderful gift to your mother to invite her along. You will already have had the initial experience with just your husband, and it would be a generous, loving family gesture to ask her to be present.<br /><br />I would never have asked to go along, but I am so very glad my daughter wanted me there.Stitchworthttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05387323354607079249noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2227740750575250405.post-59615742276537755612009-06-18T09:15:53.467-07:002009-06-18T09:15:53.467-07:00Hm. Well? It would be really cool for your mom. ...Hm. Well? It would be really cool for your mom. My mom OR MIL wouldn't ask. Ever. That would be like admitting that my husband and I have sex. Very conservative families, you see. If you just want the moment to let the fact that your belly houses a baby with an actual GENDER seep in with just your husband then DO THAT and don't feel bad about it! <br /><br />You know, one or the other would be different than having BOTH mom and MIL in the room too - what if MIL isn't even interested? Then problem solved... Anyway, I'm done throwing my two cents in here.Lizziehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13789093728950424015noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2227740750575250405.post-44279755729867457022009-06-18T08:00:51.478-07:002009-06-18T08:00:51.478-07:00I'm definitely the same way about emotion-- th...I'm definitely the same way about emotion-- the first time we heard my son's heart, my husband got teary eyed. I told him to stop crying.<br /><br />I would also never invite my mother to an ultrasound of any sort... but I'm not close to her. Or my MIL. And honestly, I think my MIL would be totally grossed out and embarrassed. She's kinda strange like that.curlyheadedtubahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12643474214334909430noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2227740750575250405.post-21025284841530992952009-06-17T22:42:06.546-07:002009-06-17T22:42:06.546-07:00This is so interesting to me because my mom and my...This is so interesting to me because my mom and my MIL would NEVER EVER ask to do this, even if they wanted to! (Which I'm pretty sure wouldn't even occur to them.) So it's easy for me to picture brushing them off. I especially can't believe how many people deal with parents/inlaws wanting to be there for the BIRTH! Our families would rather DIE, seriously. And I'm grateful, because 1) that would never be okay and 2) I would Freak. Out. about how to handle it nicely. <br /><br />Now that I'm thinking about it, though, if my mom really wanted to go to the ultrasound I'd probably be fine with it- I never really believe the ultrasound tech anyway! (Even though they've been right twice. I'm just a suspicious sort.) <br /><br />Good luck!maggiehttp://www.mightymaggie.comnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2227740750575250405.post-563106602984270682009-06-17T22:36:57.654-07:002009-06-17T22:36:57.654-07:00Let me just start by saying this: My mother-in-law...Let me just start by saying this: My mother-in-law invited people who were NOT invited to our wedding, and she was told (politely) to immediately un-invite them. It was our wedding.<br />That being said? An ultrasound is NOT your wedding. But if YOU view it as something special you only want to share with your husband ... then yeah, sorry mom. If it's flexible, tell your mom you'll think about it and get back to her. She can't just assume that you'll allow it without even outright asking if it would be ok!!<br />Good luck!Mandahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01835212055150526167noreply@blogger.com